Sutured Dreams

Human beings are not naturally inclined towards solitude. Early man found much more survival benefit in being part of a group than living on his own. Now after thousands of years of evolution, these traits manifest in different ways. One of the great teachers I had told me that the people who will shape your potential the most in life would be your friends. They are what you compare yourself to, the standard that you think is both achievable and essential. Good peer pressure can push you towards excellence while bad peer pressure can lead one astray. Friendship is all about convenience. The painful realisation that we will all make in life is that once the convenience disappears, often the friendship will follow suit. Maintaining an old friendship is much harder than just finding new, more convenient ones. Most of the time, there is no big moment of separation. Rather, there will be a slow process of drifting apart until they become little more than strangers. These people will ...

Our loved ones who pass on are never truly gone. They live on with us in the form of memories. Unfortunately, it is not always possible to choose what memories choose to pop up on a given day. We do not remember things in a linear fashion. Memories come to us scattered in arrangement, often starting from the end because those ones are the clearest. Sadly, they can also be the most upsetting. Chronic ailments like cancer and stroke are a terrible thing to live with. Watching your loved one go through that kind of suffering is a traumatic experience. You're completely helpless with regards to what is happening. It takes a lot of maturity to handle these difficult situations but all the maturity in the world is not enough to prevent yourself from being drained emotionally. The part that hurts most is not the suffering itself. It is that the suffering could not be defeated. The disease got the better of my mother and it got the better of my father. But we still fooled ourselves ...